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When Friends Go Bad

Over the last few years of my life, I've seen my share of supposed good friends come and go.  And it brings me to this question:  What makes friends go bad?  Is there an unspoken expiration date given to a friendship once its formed?  Just one year ago today my best friend and I were close as could be.  Today, she's threatening to take out a restraining order against me.  Sounds drastic, I know.  Now that's a whole other story in itself, probably best saved for a separate blog!  But for now I wonder, what causes a person to betray another?  And what makes us think that we are safe in confiding our deepest, darkest secrets in another human being just because we label them "friend"?  Because its that same person who can hurt you the most. 

With every bit of potentially hazardous information we give to those closest to us, we give them a substantial amount of power.  In most cases, a friend remains a friend, and we have nothing to worry about.  But in situations like the one I mentioned before, every detail you ever confided in that person can and will be turned into a weapon and used against you.

When milk goes bad, it smells.  When meat goes bad, it rots.  But how can you tell when a friend goes bad?  What are the signs?  Are we expected to go through life without confiding in others?  Is that even possible?  As humans, we have a need to connect with others on a deep level.

My advice is this:  Watch how your friends interact with others in their lives, whether it be their spouses, parents, co-workers, or other friends.  Are they honest to those closest to them?  Do they cheat on people who love them?  Do they lie at work?  Do they constantly fill you in on the private lives of other friends?  If any of these are true, don't think for a second that this so-called friend isn't doing the same thing to you.

Good friends are hard to come by, so when you find one, hold on with both hands!  That goes for boyfriends too....but that's a blog all on its own.

Take care of yourselves, readers.  I'm out.

~Mizz Pretty